Title: Modern Romance
Authors: Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg
Published on June 16th, 2015 by Penguin Press
Links: Official Website, Goodreads, Indigo! Chapters, Amazon CA
Summary: Comedian Aziz Ansari takes a complete look on how romance became modern in the world of technology and a new generation. He analyzes the habits of young daters in the hook up world, the apps and websites connecting all of us, and the trends of dating using a smartphone (or any technology/app). There is no longer a “traditional” romance in this era; it’s a modern romance.
We all know who Aziz Ansari is, right? He’s one of my favourite comedians right now and to find that he released a book this summer, I had to jump on it and grab a copy myself… and it’s by far one my favourite reads this year. Modern Romance is the first novel (to my knowledge and excluding academic papers) to focus on the new relationship between the dating world and smartphones.
How many of you guys tried online dating via a website or an app? How many times have you stared at your phone hoping your crush would call you by now? Text you? How many of us have sent nudies? Nearly all of these trends began only recently (aside from calling) with the increase of technology usage.
Ansari describes these new trends on dating, “modern romance”. Gone are the days we marry our next door neighbours by the age of 19. Gone are the days of “kind men” and date nights. Gone are the days of “traditional” romance.
Mixing his comedic skills, this light read proves all to real in the dating world. Now, note that although Ansari is a comedian, he did put a lot of resources and dedication into conducting his studies for this book, and co-written it with psychologist Eric Klinenberg. So, don’t brush this off as another silly comedy book – it does have some psychology to it.
Through his studies, the two authors shares real life experiences of the dating scene with technologies. He touches base on apps such as Tinder and Grindr, and sites as OKCupid. He analyzes why we take ages to reply to messages, or how some guys come off as rude. Ansari even provides tips on how to text. He explains the transition from traditional to modern romances. He even talks about marriage and arrange marriages.
The novel provides a humongous insight on the dating habits our generation has developed thanks to the usage of our mobile phones. He reflects on dating habits of our generation, eg. putting careers first or waiting until we’re in our 30s to get married.
It’s funny to realize that what we do individually isn’t so insane. It’s a habit, or a reflex that smartphone users developed overtime. Dating in this age is different, and some may say it’s harder than the previous generation.
Regardless, all of us fall under the “modern romance” generation now. If you’re one to use “non-traditional” means of finding love, or more interested in how our generation finds love and approach the dating scene, I definitely recommend picking up Modern Romance. It’s insightful and guarantee to make you laugh!
I picked up the audiobook version which was read by Aziz, himself. If you’re looking for a different experience, try his audiobook. It’s 10x more hilarious than the book since Aziz adds his own commentary and personality.
Rating – 5/5
*Disclaimer: This review was not sponsored by Penguin Press or Aziz Ansari/Eric Klinenberg. It is also not sponsored by any of the corporations the links above leads to. The purchase made for this review came out of my own pocket.