We’ve all heard it before, that your early 20s are some of our best years in our lives to party, drink, and “discover ourselves”.
And I thought… wow, the amount of times I go clubbing can’t even match their month’s quota. I enjoy clubbing from time to time, and have developed my favourite club(s) to visit, but I wouldn’t classify myself as a frequent clubber. I find it too exhausting, expensive, and sometimes even uncomfortable. Plus, I hate being cold because coat check isn’t worth $20.
But just listening to my boyfriend’s stories and seeing all these clubbing photos makes me feel like I’m not living up my young adult years.
I’m so focussed on school, like I just want to finish my education and start my career. I’m too focused on my non-existent HR career path (planning, digging more information, etc.). On Friday nights, after a long day of school, I just want to relax or hanging out with my friends. I don’t want to get ready to dance in a crowded place with sweaty (and stinky) people. I’d rather sit in a bar and casually hang with my friends.
My boyfriend tells me, it’s good that I’m not a clubber. He’s attracted to my work ethics and determination. He tells me I’m more mature for my age. In general, he’s glad that I’m not a party girl because his lifestyle isn’t about clubs anymore.
My friends tell me that I’m smart not to waste my money on clubbing and that focusing on work and school will be worth it in the long run.
But despite what they tell me, a part of me feelings upset that I’m losing out on the experience. I don’t have crazy party stories to tell friends and to be honest, I’m sometimes afraid that people will think I’m too “boring/plain”. Drinking in bars is so much different that clubbing. A lot of my older friends that left the clubbing scene enjoys the bar scenes and so do I, but friends my age hasn’t realized the greatness of bars yet.